Why So Many Women Feel Disconnected

Many women come to my circles carrying a quiet confusion.

On the surface, life looks full. Busy calendars. Responsibilities. People who need them. Social plans. Work. Family. A constant stream of doing.

And yet, beneath all of that, there is a persistent feeling of disconnection.

Not always dramatic. Often subtle. A sense of being slightly untethered from oneself. Like something essential has gone quiet.

Women often tell me, “I don’t know what’s wrong. Nothing is technically wrong. I think I’m just numb.”

This feeling is far more common than we realize.

Disconnection is not a personal failure

We live in a world that rewards output, speed, and self sufficiency. Most women have learned to adapt beautifully to this environment. We become capable, dependable, efficient. We hold families together. We keep things moving. We manage emotions, logistics, and expectations, often without pause.

But adaptation comes at a cost.

Disconnection is not a sign that you are doing life badly. It is often a sign that you have been doing too much alone for too long.

Why “self care” often doesn’t touch the deeper ache

Many women try to resolve this feeling by adding more self care. Another routine. Another habit. Another thing to optimize.

While rest, movement, and nourishment matter deeply, disconnection is not always something that can be solved privately.

We are relational beings. Our nervous systems regulate in the presence of safety, slowness, and being seen.

Scrolling, consuming, and obsessing about self improving rarely provide that.

The nervous system needs something ancient

Long before therapy language and productivity culture, women gathered.

Not to fix each other. Not to perform. Not to achieve insight.

They gathered to sit, to listen, to share stories, to mark seasons, to drink warm things, to rest their vigilance for a moment.

When women sit together without expectation, something softens. Breath deepens. Shoulders lower. The body recognizes that it is not alone.

This is not nostalgia. It is biology.

Being witnessed changes us

One of the most regulating experiences a human can have is being witnessed without interruption or advice.

In circle spaces, women often say the same thing in different words. “I thought it was just me. I didn’t realize others felt this way too. I feel lighter just hearing it spoken out loud.”

Connection does not come from being impressive or put together. It comes from being real in a space that can hold it.

A quiet invitation

If you have been feeling disconnected, flat, or quietly tired of holding everything together, there is nothing wrong with you.

It may simply be time to return to yourself in the presence of others.

Not through pressure. Not through fixing.

But through warmth, rhythm, ritual, and being remembered.

This is the kind of space I create in my women’s circles and in my other offerings. A place to land. A place to reconnect. A place where you do not have to do it alone.

You are not broken. You are not behind.

You are human, and you were never meant to carry it all by yourself.

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